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Advice when you move to a new job

June 22nd, 2012 Kevin

Coaching is a wonderful profession because our clients become friends.

Here is the advice I offer my friend on the way to a new job, in a new city. The person has been on the job a few days with mounting stress, concerns for not getting things right, and an awareness that failure is an option– preferably, an avoidable one! I have changed information to share this advice with a wider audience.


Homework: please get out a dictionary, read the definition of “perspective,” and then write out five examples of how it can happen more at your office. I sense, I feel, and yearn to hear more about different perspectives in the current situation and the experiences you are facing.


You have lots of love. In this instance, work love is different than romantic love. It means connecting, building rapport, earning trust, and being fair with coworkers and your boss despite the conditions. Love is really important for you in that office since the way you describe things so far, there may be a shortage of it; in other words, love may be a scarce/hidden/fleeting commodity. Your arrival means they just struck a rich vein. Spread the wealth, spread your love.

Let whatever happens be okay

That office has survived a long time without you. There is solace in that thought. You are there now and things will still work out. Remember, Rome did not get built in a 2 hour span, nor did it fall down that fast. As we discussed, since you are perfect for this job, the things that are happening sound just about right!

Your job description and its possible shift

It is unusual that the job description you were hired for shifts in the first week, usually the honeymoon period is at least two weeks these days. Oy. You told me they hired you for your experience in the job you had before graduate school. Focus in on that. By your description of the first few days, they may be expanding your role. If that is true go ahead and discuss the parameters of the change. You deserve to know what’s going on.


From the sound of things happening in your first week on the job, you deserve to get your bearing. By this I mean check in with your toes and the balls of your feet. There is sound and solid ground in the new city you find yourself in, this I know. FEEL it. Smell the air, be in the moment. Love your job. Love your city. Good.

True or false narratives

You are a professional who offers clearly defined services. Other titles, with other service parameters including tattle tale or spy (your words not mine) seem far away from what your profession does. Feel free to drop any unhelpful narratives.

Being too nice

You mentioned a tendency to apologize for not understanding some of the new things you are learning right away. Instead of apologizing, take a long extended breath. Then review what happened and after that, thank your coworkers for their understanding of the newness of your work. Make your desire to succeed with them and for them clear to them.


Success comes in so many colors. Each minute you are there in that office is success. Smell it. Taste it. Feel it. Success demands errorless learning. You are learning the ropes: it turns out some of them are slippery; some feel rough; and a few are quite frayed by your description of things. Success for your coworkers means that you help them. So go ahead and help them. All of them. That delivers group success. The few that cannot or will not be helped, give them up to a higher power. Help the ones that can handle help and be fair to everyone else.


Surely with that large an office you will find allies. You deserve them. So cultivate them. Friends come in many forms. Be slow, invite in relationship, and help them help you help them. Allies matter.

The First 90 Days

I attach a review of an excellent book for your situation called “The First 90 Days.” Go ahead and read it. Then apply what resonates with you.


I’ll summarize my advice with two words: PERSPECTIVE and BEARING. Get some! [They are like milk, and different]. You are perfect for this job and your new city is the exact right place for you to be in right now! Maybe this advice can help you along your journey in a new job, a new city, and give you new hope.

Peace, bearing, and perspective to you,

Kevin Leahy

Austin, Texas


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